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Learn to Wield These Two Powerful Words

--by Nancy Hausauer

Yes/No word cloud

I love road trips. You have time to really talk about things with someone. I got to have a nice, long drive with a good friend recently. Bliss!

One of our main "talk-abouts" was an experience in which she'd gone along with something when she didn't really want to. Her inner voice had said "No!" but she hadn’t heeded it. As a result she’d gotten into a really unpleasant situation.

We delved into the concept of personal boundaries, speaking our truth and the importance of voicing our "No’s" and our "Yes's." As we "threshed," we realized that our No's and our Yes's are acts of primal self-expression and power that need to be cultivated and honored if we are to live our lives fully. If we use them with full integrity and truth, they are sacred acts.

A Sacred No In Action

About this time, my friend and I stopped at a restaurant for breakfast. The two-year old at the table next to us started lustily exercising her "No." Her mother handled it beautifully—which is to say, pretty neutrally. We listened, delighted, as the little girl loudly continued to resist everything her mother suggested. Her "no" was just "no," powerful, clear, and un-conflicted. A perfect little teacher of the Sacred No!

Properties Of The Sacred No and The Sacred Yes

As I see it, the Sacred No:
  • honors our personal boundaries and what we don’t want
  • interrupts a flow that is not going where we want
  • represents the sacred dynamic of contraction
  • does not fear conflict
  • represents knowing and valuing self
  • is percussive in nature; establishes structure.

The Sacred Yes:

  • honors our desires and intentions
  • values forward motion
  • is in harmony with the flow of energy
  • represents the sacred dynamic of expansion
  • trusts the unknown
  • is melodic in nature; creates flow.

Cultivating Your Sacred Yes and Sacred No

If we can get right with our Yes's and our No’s, our lives will be so much cleaner and will flow so much more clearly. Cultivating your Sacred Yes and Sacred No will help you live your truth and establish a beautiful balance in your life, between melody and percussion, structure and flow.

To cultivate right use of these two ultra-powerful words, practice listening for your inner voice, or listening to information from your body. A Sacred Yes often starts with a feeling of expansion. A Sacred No often starts with a feeling of contraction. Pay attention, follow your inner voice more often, and see what results.

You also might want to create an altar or a ritual to support you in walking the path of your truth, or wearing a particular item of jewelry or carrying a pebble in your pocket to remind you.

Be creative and strong and exercise the power of your own integrity!

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You DO Perceive Energy. Here's Proof

—by Nancy Hausauer

What do these cliches and stock phrases have in common?The Secret Hiding In Your Cliches

  • getting a vibe
  • rubs me the wrong way
  • glowing with pride
  • warm up the crowd
  • read the situation wrong
  • scattered thoughts
  • crestfallen
  • took the wind out of my sails
  • head in the clouds
  • clear the air
  • heart-to-heart talk
  • break the ice
  • read the crowd.

I bet you've used at least one or two of these stock phrases before. And what's their common thread? To my ear, they all refer to experiences of perceiving energy. Although people probably aren't fully conscious of it, when they use phrases like these, I think they have subliminally perceived subtle energy and are trying to communicate about it.

Next time you use (or hear) one of these or similar phrases, stop and think about what you are really saying. Stop and reflect on what you were feeling/hearing/seeing/tasting/smelling/thinking—in short, the sum of the experience that generated the phrase.

In this way, you can help train yourself to notice when you are perceiving and reading energy!

The fact that phrases like these are commonly used, with no great fanfare, proves to me—if I ever doubted it—that the raw experience of perceiving subtle energy is widespread, if not universal.

But few of us are consciously aware of doing so.

  • Maybe the energy is more subtle than we expect.
  • Maybe we expect it to feel like something other than it does.
  • Or maybe perceiving energy is so natural to us that we don't even realize we're doing it!

But as cliches and stock phrases like the ones above show, our experiences of subtle energy were there all along, like a secret hiding in plain sight.

I'd love to hear your ideas about other common phrases that are actually talking about energetic experiences. Comment or share on my Facebook page.

Rethinking Depression: A Powerful Doorway To Healing

--by Nancy Hausauer

Degas painting of melancholy womanDepression affects so many people, myself included at times in my life. Even though scientists don't all agree that depression is caused by chemical disorders/imbalances in the brain, the medical world usually treats it as such, prescribing anti-depressants to an astonishing one in ten adult Americans.

My problem with this conventional interpretation—for myself—is that it reduces depression to a meaningless, random, biological phenomenon, marginalizing and trivializing a state that is probably experienced to some degree, at some point, by everyone. And as psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl said, "Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose."

Don't get me wrong. I'm not against anti-depressants. They can provide a foothold from which to climb out of the deep, black pit of severe depression. And I'm not saying that there isn't a brain chemistry component in any given person's depression. I'm saying that for me, attributing it to JUST that is reductive and dehumanizing.

If you believe as I do, that we're more than just biological machines, and as Viktor Frankl did, that a sense of meaning makes life's suffering bearable, then it seems reasonable at least to explore how something as deep and as widespread as depression might be more than just a bio-chemical phenomenon.

For me, even allowing the idea that there could be valid alternative interpretations of depression is freeing and empowering. It lets me interpret my own experience and make meaning out of my own life. Such empowerment seems especially important because it combats the deep sense of powerlessness that is often one of depression's key components.

Fortunately, beyond the reductive brain-chemistry view of depression, there's a rich history of alternative interpretations of this very human state, including:

  • The radical idea that it's a normal human process, rather than an aberrant pathology.
  • That it's more a cultural sickness than a personal illness, in the sense that our culture has become in many ways opposite to what we humans need to thrive. For example, Western culture is for the most part socially isolating, disempowering and sedentary. It does not support deep sleep or offer much truly nourishing food. All of this is antithetical to our basic biological and psycho-social needs, so it's no wonder many of us are out of whack.
  • That it's a sacred process and a call to transform one's life, rather than a meaningless, random curse.
  • That it's an energy phenomenon, for example a deep lack of grounding, or being walled off from outside sources of energy.

To take charge of how I experience my own life and to interpret it in ways that nourish rather than debilitate my spirit—this is some of the most powerful energy medicine I can imagine.

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You Want To Become An Energy Healer. Where Do You Start?

--by Nancy Hausauer

Reader Question:

Where Do I Start?I'm very interested in becoming a energy healer. Do you have suggestions as to where to start?

Nancy's Response

I have pages on my site about types of energy healing, and about learning energy healing. Those will be helpful to you.

Many other pages on my site will be helpful to you as well, and it's all free. I'd encourage you to spend some time with the whole site. A lot of the material there I haven't encountered anywhere else, and it's aimed particularly at folks like you, who are new to energy healing and have a lot of questions.

What Kind Of Energy Healing?

As for in-person classes, if you live in a rural area, you may have to take whatever is available. If you're in a more urban area, of course there will be more options. I often suggest Healing Touch, Eden Energy Medicine, Quantum Touch, or Reiki. If you're interested in Traditional Chinese Medicine, you may be interested in acupressure.

They're all different, and one method may appeal to you more than others. Why don't you go to the various websites of these methods (there are links for many of them on my Types of Energy Healing page); read about them and see if one calls to you.

For Right Now

In the meantime, try out a few of the simple techniques on my website. You can find them here.

Also begin practicing foundational techniques such as grounding. and centering , and look at this page that gives you some ways to begin to work with and care for your own energy.

I'd also encourage you to start noticing the ways that you are already interacting with other people's energies. Do some people, places and situations make you feel better than others? In your life as it already is, without being an "official energy healer" (if there is such a thing!) are there ways that you can touch peoples' lives in positive ways: for example, a smile, a word of encouragement, an honest compliment, keeping a level head in a contentious situation? How does doing that seem to impact others? How does it make you feel? What do you notice?

Experience Energy Healing As A Receiver

It's also useful to receive a variety of energy healings and see if you respond better to some than others. I would think the ones you respond strongly to would be ones that you might also have an affinity for as a practitioner.

Good luck and remember, it's a journey, rather than a destination. Enjoy the process.

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Let the Fall Equinox Help You Balance Your Energy

--by Nancy Hausauer

Autumn leaves on the Mountain

September 22 is the Fall Equinox. (Spring Equinox if you're in the Southern Hemisphere, but the principles are the same.)

On the equinoxes, day and night are equal. They're seasons of balance and equipoise, and as with everything in our world, they offer a lesson and a healing if we choose to take it.

Balance: One of the Key Elements of Healing and Health

One of the hallmarks of the Equinox is balance—day and night, light and dark. And balance is one of the key principles of healing.

Physically, our bodies are in a constant balancing process to maintain homeostasis. Most of us instinctively seek the stability and peace of balanced minds and emotions. And energetically, balancing is one of our key goals.

The Equinox is a good time to re-balance your life and energies—and recover greater physical, emotional and psychological health.

An Equinox Self-Healing for Balance

Here's an exercise to help you fine-tune your energies and your life.

  • Choose a decent-weather day around September 22. Grab a pen, journal, and whatever you need to be comfortable outdoors. Take a walk in a natural setting. Give yourself time to enjoy the signs of the season— the sights, smells, quality of light, feel of the air. Breathe it in, and let yourself feel that you're absorbing it into your cells.
  • Find a place to sit comfortably.
  • Ask yourself, "Where does my life feel in balance? Where in my life would I like more balance?" Let your intuition answer, and free-write about it. Does anything really stand out to you, or surprise you?
  • When you feel done, close your eyes and, without trying or using your mind, intend for your energy to become more fluid. Breathe deeply and allow it to shift, adjust and re-balance, without working to control what happens. You may feel it in your body, your energy field, or both.
  • Take as long as you like to allow this process to work, and then take more time to enjoy your re-calibrated state.
  • Then—this should take just a second—lightly intend to have your re-balanced energy stabilize into a kind of "liquid crystal" state—dynamic but stable. Again, don't overthink this; whatever you do will be just right. (I visualize giving my field a light, quick tap.)
  • When you're ready, ground yourself and bring your attention back to your surroundings. Enjoy the rest of your walk, and over the coming days, stay open to opportunities for further gentle re-balancing.

Namaste, Nancy

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Energy Healing To Keep Your Child Well This School Year

----by Nancy Hausauer

Little Kids

With school starting, I'd share some energy healing techniques that parents can do to strengthen their children's immune systems (and their own). When my daughter was little, I remember how often she'd bring home a virus that we'd all eventually get. No fun.

Illness-causing microbes are always out there. From an energetic perspective, illness is often the result of the energy field wearing thin because of stress or other depletions such as poor eating and sleeping habits, or from actual breaches in the field caused by emotional or physical trauma. Without these energetic openings, the energies of the illness usually can't get a foothold.

As with more practical defenses (washing hands, eating and sleeping well, etc.), in energy healing an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. So here are a few energetic preventative techniques to help keep your kids' energy systems robust and their bodies well.

  • Stress depletes the energy field and inhibits immune system function, so teach your child stress management and relaxation techniques.

  • In particular, teach them belly breathing. It stimulates lymphatic flow, calms the nervous system, and helps balance the energy system. Make it a family activity.

  • Whenever they seem "off," ground them by holding or rubbing their feet. (Firmly so as not to tickle.)

  • When they're upset, smooth and balance their field by running your open hand(s) along the contour of their body about 6-12 inches above it, like petting an imaginary cat, multiple times, head to toe. You can also spread your fingers a bit and "comb" their field.

  • Teach your child basic energetic techniques such as grounding (have them imagine they're sending down roots from the soles of their feet deep into the earth, like a tree), centering , and surrounding her/himself with light.

  • Get your child out into nature—one of the best things you can do for both energetic and physical wellness.

  • Domestic animals are wonderful healers, helping buffer, absorb and balance energy, so let your child spend lots of time with the family pet.

Donna Eden's classic book Energy Medicine is a great resource for family wellness, and here are some other ideas, too.

Of course, sometimes microbes catch up with us no matter what we do, so don't blame yourself if your child gets sick. Just take good care of them (and yourself) and use it as an opportunity to bond.

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Worried? Nothing You Can Do About It? Here's What To Do

----by Nancy Hausauer

Calibrate up and trust what happens

Recently, I was telling my husband about something I was worried about. It involved a tricky situation with someone I cared a lot about, and I didn't feel like I had much influence over how it was going to turn out. I was really stewing about it and asked for his advice.

He said something simple but brilliant:

Calibrate up and trust what happens.
It was the perfect advice for my worried mind. My stress fell away and I felt an incredible sense of relief. Because by calibrating my energy up, I could be confident that whatever happened was right, at least on some level. I could feel certain that it was all going to work out in the long run.

"Calibrate your energy up and trust what happens" is advice I'd recommend for anyone who's fretting about something.

How Do You Calibrate Your Energy Up?

But how do you do that? There's no single answer. There must be a million ways to do it. As with all things energetic, intention is the key. I want to encourage you to create your own ways to calibrate your energy up, but to get you going, here are some ideas:

  • If you pray, it's a beautiful way to calibrate an experience to a higher level.
  • Set an intention for the highest good for everyone involved in the situation.
  • Use the "shield of light" technique both to fill your field with light and to put some energetic space between you and your troubling situation.
  • Be present and grateful for everything you can be aware of to be grateful for.
  • Remember what one of my clients brilliantly pointed out: "You can spiral up as well as spiral down." So if you're spiraling down, turn that feeling around and move the energy up.
  • Imagine the situation you're worried about. You can imagine it any way you want: a scene, a symbol or whatever. Now, imagine that you are floating high above it, so high that you can't see its details, and send love, compassion and light to it.

  • Move your energetic center to your heart chakra, your Third Eye, or both. Here's a technique for using breath to do that (#1 in the list):
  • Develop a short, personal ritual for raising your energy. This could be a phrase, a sound, an image, a gesture/mudra, etc.
  • Practice mindfulness and do your best to stay in the present.
  • Remember this wisdom from Pema Chodron: "Whatever is happening is the path to enlightenment" (or evolution or personal growth).

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Use Energy Healing To Activate The Powerful Medicine of Relaxation

----by Nancy Hausauer

Relaxation word cloud

Ours is a driven society. We idealize hard work and demonize "laziness." As a culture, we're not big on relaxing.

But relaxation is powerful medicine. It's the state in which our bodies take care of business, including the business of healing. On a physical level, it feels great and allows our bodies' natural self-healing and restoration processes to work like they're supposed to. On an energetic level, being relaxed allows our energy fields to shift more easily to a state of healthy balance and flow. 


It's not that stress is all bad. A moderate, temporary amount can actually be good for you. And as we all know, at least some stress is involved in almost all good outcomes. Think of having children; getting a new job; starting anything new. It seems almost necessary for growth and change.

Good stress like this is temporary and manageable.

The bad kind of stress feels overwhelming and/or doesn't let up for days, weeks, months, even years. This ongoing, heavy tension is a contributor to many kinds of illness and disease, not to mention mental suffering. Prolonged stress makes you vulnerable to illness and accelerates aging. Over time the stress response can contribute to high blood pressure, heart disease, ulcers, autoimmune diseases, cancer, anxiety, insomnia and depression.

The Relaxation Response: a Prescription for Health & Wellness

Relaxing, on the other hand, turns off our body's response to stress—with remarkable benefits for physical, mental, emotional, and energetic health. Here are some of the good things that it does for the body-mind:

  • Slows heart rate
  • Normalizes blood pressure
  • Slows breathing rate
  • Allows oxygen to be used more efficiently
  • Decreases adrenal gland production of stress hormones
  • Increases production of growth and sex hormones
  • Improves immune system health
  • Increases blood flow to major muscles
  • Reduces muscle tension
  • Helps relieve aches and pains
  • Helps you handle negative emotions such as anger and frustration
  • Promotes energy
  • Improves concentration and creativity
  • Improves ability to handle problems.
See what I mean? It's a veritable fountain of youth and health.

Energy Healing Promotes Relaxation

In my experience, one of the most common and immediately visible effects of energy healing--any kind--is relaxation. You usually can hear your client's breathing slow down, maybe hear them sigh as they let go of tension, watch their face smooth out.

Sessions in which dramatic insights or shifts happen are exciting and rewarding. But if relaxation is "all" that obviously happens in a session, believe me, you've done good work.

It means you've helped your client's energy field become more fluid, smoother, more harmonious, more flowing. It means you've helped them get into a state where they can heal themselves. And that is ultimately what we are trying to do.

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Am I a Healer?

----by Nancy Hausauer

People sometimes ask me, "How do I know if I'm a healer?"

Healer word cloud

It's clear that they think it's a rare and special gift given only to a few. I think a lot of people feel that way.

But I think differently, so for me the answer to their question is simple:

"You don't have to wait for a special sign from above that you're a healer. You are a healer. Everyone is. Everyone has the ability to heal others (or more specifically, to support others in their own self-healing.)

To me, the ability to help others heal is just part of being human. To ask "Am I a healer" is like asking, "Am I human?"

But beyond that, there are two important points to consider.

Many Ways to Be a Healer

First, there are many ways to be "a healer," and you can do "the work" from any place in life. You can be a healer (or not!) as a medical doctor, a nurse, or any of the other conventional healing roles. You can be a healer in a less traditional way, such as being an energy healer.

But teachers, politicians, photographers, counselors, store clerks, moms, dads, administrators, roofers, childcare workers and anyone else in the whole wide world can be powerful healers as well. You don't have to go to school or hang out a shingle. You can do this work from where you already are.

Healing As a Path You Walk, Not an Ability You Have or Acquire

The second point is that energy healing is more a path than a skill set or ability. Anyone can walk at least a little ways down that path, assuming their intentions are good. But to go very far on the path, you must be intentionally evolving, continually working to raise the calibration of your energy.

The Real Questions

So the real questions are:
  • Do you want to be a healer?
  • Do you want to set aside your own ego and help others activate their own self-healing powers?
  • Do you care enough about doing it that you'll do it quietly from where you already are?
  • Do you want to walk the spiritual path, the evolutionary path, that is necessary to develop as a healer?

Because it's not HAVING the gift of healing that's special. It's DEVELOPING it that's special. That happens naturally if you truly want it to be your path—but it has to happen.

So in a way I suppose "being a healer" is mostly about hearing a "calling" and answering it. If you're wondering about whether you're a healer, you've already heard the call. What you do with it is up to you.

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Consciousness Shifting: Perceptual Agility for the Energy Healer

--by Nancy Hausauer


Energy healing works from a different model of reality—a different paradigm—than the one that is dominant in Western culture. That reality model, or underlying world-view, is philosophical materialism.

Philosophical materialism, to put it simplistically, holds that only physical matter is truly real. Obviously, this is not the way that an energy healer looks at the world, at least not while doing a healing.

Being able to switch your consciousness from the dominant model of reality (that only matter is real and the human body and mind is like a machine) to the energy healing model of reality (that there are subtle, invisible forces that shape us and that what we truly are can never be reduced to mere cellular processes or interactions of matter) is therefore extremely useful to any energy healer.

Is it absolutely necessary to be able to do this? Maybe not. But it is certainly helpful. And liberating. Spiritual teacher Ram Das points out the important relationship between the process of spiritual awakening and being able to shift your sense of reality:

"Part of the process of awakening is the recognition that the realities we thought were absolute are only relative. All you have to do is shift in one reality once and your attachment to what you thought was real starts to collapse. Once the seed of awakening is in you, there's no choice – there's no turning back. We all know that reality is relative; we have known it since childhood."

As with most things, we get better at this consciousness-shifting thing with practice.

I think this short video from Rupert Spira, in particular the "I am the body/I am aware of the body" exercise, can be extremely useful for energy healers. It not only helps develop the ability to shift consciousness/reality models, but also can help us move into a higher energy state to prepare for doing energy work. If you pay close attention, you may be able to feel your energy shift when you go into "I am aware of the body" mode.

If you aren't able to view the embedded video above, you can see it here.

Enjoy! —Nancy

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