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"When The Body Says No": The Work of Dr. Gabor Mate'

----by Nancy Hausauer

Photo of Dr. Gabor Mate'

Chronic suppression of emotions, especially healthy anger.

An overriding, self-sacrificing sense of duty and responsibility.

An exaggerated concern for the needs of others while ignoring your own.

A deep, often subconscious, belief that you're responsible for how others feel and must not disappoint them.

These four behavior patterns are a common thread among many people with severe and chronic illnesses, according to renowned Canadian physician and best-selling author Gabor Mate'.

As energy healers, we tend to see people with severe and/or chronic conditions, illnesses that conventional medicine has been unable to remedy, so I've often seen these behavior patterns in people in my practice, and I bet you have, too. Since I hang out a lot with helper-types, I also see them in my personal life.

The core seems to be self-sacrificing, self-effacing behavior—an unwillingness to advocate strongly for one's own well-being. As Dr. Mate's 2003 book “When The Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection“ argues persuasively, such self-harmful behaviors are usually formed in early childhood as defenses and coping mechanisms for relationships and situations that are stressful or otherwise not ideal for healthy development.

These unconscious, habitual self-sacrificing behaviors from childhood can result in a lifetime of being unable to adequately care for ourselves. Since we are unable to consciously say "no" to stress-inducing situations and behaviors, our bodies must say it for us, expressing unconscious emotional pain and "dis-ease" through actual disease.

Dr. Mate' advocates examining our early years, not to blame ourselves or our families, but rather to shine a light on childhood coping patterns that may be harming our current-day physical health. Once we are aware of them, we can change them. We can also, as he advocates,

"Give yourself, as best you can, what your parents would have loved to grant you but probably could not: full-hearted attention, full-minded awareness, and compassion. Make gifting yourself with these qualities your daily practice."

As energy healers, we are well situated to help people at this fundamental level—not with quick symptomatic relief, but rather by promoting deep-seated changes that support healing and balance from the core outward. Most of us aren't mental health therapists, but we can listen carefully; point out behavior patterns; encourage self-love, self-esteem, emotional balance and healthy boundaries both verbally and through energy work; and refer clients to other professionals as appropriate.

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You can learn more about Dr. Mate's thoughts in this article, or this video

Imbolc, Poetry and Creative Fire

----by Nancy Hausauer

Statue of Apollo's torso

In the Northern Hemisphere, February 2 marks the ancient Celtic holiday of Imbolc. It's the beginning of the beginning of Spring. (In the Southern Hemisphere, the beginning of the beginning of Fall.)

In Celtic/Gaelic mythology, the goddess closely associated with Imbolc is Brigid (usually pronounced "Breed"). Brigid is associated, among other things, with blacksmithing, home and hearth, and poetry. On first glance, this seems like a motley assortment, but there's a common thread there in fire and creativity.

I'm not much of a blacksmith, but I love poetry and take pretty much any opportunity to celebrate it. I believe that poetry, like all art, has strong energetic properties, healing us and calling us to a higher vibration.

So today, as an Imbolc offering, I want to share a favorite poem. Written by the great German poet Rainer Maria Rilke and translated by Stephen Mitchell, it describes an ancient Greek statue, deeply damaged but still holding its original energetic force. The poem defies a simple explanation, but I love its themes of the transformative power of art, wholeness despite superficial brokenness, the holographic nature of existence, the consciousness dwelling in everything. And of course, the breath-taking shift of the last line. To me, the poem both describes and embodies creative fire, and it always gives me a visceral surge of energy. (The image above, by the way, is an archaic torso of Apollo, but not the one that Rilke was describing.)

Archaic Torso of Apollo

by Rainer Maria Rilke

We cannot know his legendary head
with eyes like ripening fruit. And yet his torso
is still suffused with brilliance from inside,
like a lamp, in which his gaze, now turned to low,

gleams in all its power. Otherwise
the curved breast could not dazzle you so, nor could
a smile run through the placid hips and thighs
to that dark center where procreation flared.

Otherwise this stone would seem defaced
beneath the translucent cascade of the shoulders
and would not glisten like a wild beast's fur:

would not, from all the borders of itself,
burst like a star: for here there is no place
that does not see you. You must change your life.

In this beautiful, wise season of early spring, I hope you find poetry and art that heals you and calls you to a higher vibration. And I hope that you exercise some of your own creative fire as well — Nancy

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Anxious? Use This to Turn Off Your Overactive Stress Response

----by Nancy Hausauer

Who can't use another technique for anxiety relief and stress management?

Anxious face line drawing

When we're anxious and stressed, our energy is all spiky and chaotic. The following extremely easy, meridian-based technique can help you calm and smooth your energy when you're feeling stressed and edgy.

Triple Warmer

The Triple Warmer (also called Triple Heater and Triple Burner) meridian governs our stress response, among other things. In our uptight culture, Triple Warmer works overtime for most people.

You can calm it down, and thus reduce stress and anxiety, by tapping, rubbing or holding the third point on the meridian (TW3), which is on the back of your hand.

How to Find Triple Warmer Three

To find TW3, make a gentle fist. Between the bones in the hand that lead to the fourth and fifth fingers (ring and pinky fingers), you will see a slight indentation or depression (below the knuckle-bones). This is the spot.

How to Calm Triple Warmer by Tapping, Rubbing or Holding TW3

Using two or three fingers of the other hand, tap, rub or hold this spot for a minute. (By using two or three fingers, you're sure to hit the right place.) Breathe deeply (but comfortably) while you do this--nice, full breaths all the way down into the lower third of your lungs.

Then switch hands, continuing to breathe deeply.

That's it! Just don't try to do this while you drive. But you knew that.

It may take 20 minutes or so for the stress hormones to clear from your body (although it works quickly for me).

Namaste -- Nancy

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**Line drawing by By Barry Langdon-Lassagne (Own work) [CC BY 3.0 (], via Wikimedia Commons**

Boost Your Creativity and Clear Creative Block

--by Nancy Hausauer

Painting of Isadora Duncan by Abraham Walkowitz, Public Domain via Wikimedia

Who wants to be more creative?

I don't know anyone who'd say "no" to that.

We think of creativity as being the special province of artists, but in reality it's important no matter what line of work you're in. And energy healing can help.

Work with the 5th Chakra and 2nd Chakra to Enhance Creativity

When I'm working with clients who want to enhance their inspiration, imagination, inventiveness and originality, I pay special attention to the second and fifth chakras, the chakras most related to creativity.

Here are links for some easy and fun ways to clear and balance them:

Down-to-Earth Ways to Clear and Balance Your Fifth Chakra.

Down-to-Earth Ways to Clear and Balance Your Second Chakra

You can find more suggestions in my book, Chakra Care, but the ideas on the website pages above are plenty to get you started.

Left-Right Balancing, Another Creativity Booster

Balancing left and right aspects—body, field, brain hemispheres—also supports creativity. The Celtic Weave is a great general technique for left-right balancing. And since most of us are overly reliant on the left hemisphere of our brain, supporting the right brain hemisphere is also usually a good balancer and creativity stimulator.

Binaural Beats — Theta Brain Waves — to Stimulate Creative Juices

A final creativity-boosting tip is brain-wave technology. Theta waves are the signature brain-wave pattern of the creative process.

Audio recordings that embed theta waves behind other sound tracks can entrain your brain into a state of heightened creativity. From personal experience, I can tell you that they really work! (There are a lot of companies that produce recordings using brain-wave technology, also called hemi-synch or binaural beats. My favorite is The Relaxation Company.)

Creativity is fun and juicy and life-supporting and evolutionary. I wish you boatloads of it! — Nancy

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Wishing You A Radiant New Year

With the turn of the new year just around the corner, I wanted to share these lovely Spiritually Literate New Year's Resolutions with you.

I'll be taking a break for a couple of weeks to rest, balance and spend time with family. I expect to be back around January 18.

Wishing you a beautiful, light-filled 2016, Nancy

Wishing You The Essence of Christmas

Winter Rest

Whatever you are doing or celebrating this week, I wish you hope, miracles, serenity and love.

And I wish us all Peace on Earth.

Love, Nancy

Hope: The Lesson of Mid-Winter

---by Nancy Hausauer

There’s a lot of dark stuff happening in the world today. I don't need to enumerate. Personally, if I'm not careful, I can start to sink into a fairly gloomy state of mind.

But for those of us in the Northern Hemisphere, the Winter Solstice is just a week away. For me that celestial event helps me keep the flame of my hope alight.

Winter Rest

The Winter Solstice is the longest night of the year. But it also heralds the return of the light. As soon as the Solstice has passed, the days start to get longer. I love the poetry of that. It reminds me that the light always returns. It gives me reason to hope for better times.

Hope is essential. It helps us heal—even science now admits that. Without hope our energy starts shutting down and we close our energetic access to the realm of potential. On a practical level, we just stop trying. We stop looking for solutions. We just sit and wait for "the inevitable"—and whether we’re talking about a personal problem or a global one, that's deadly.

So nurturing and cultivating hope is vitally important. I encourage you and me and all of us to make keeping hope alive an every-day practice. Hope for peace. Hope for love. Hope for healing, for ourselves, our loved ones, our world.

Here are a few ideas to help you become a guardian of the world’s hope:

  • Seek out hopeful people, books and movies.
  • Develop a daily ritual to nourish hope.
  • Every time you light a candle, dedicate the act to kindling hope in yourself and in the world.
  • Create an altar as a visual prayer for and nourisher of hope.
  • Think of and share examples from your life or from history when discouraging situations turned around.
  • Create something and allow it to remind you of the boundless creative potential of the universe. Here are some wonderful ideas:
  • Make a point of doing things that lift your spirits and avoiding things that don't.
  • Cultivate a habit of looking for things that are going right. You can do this without blinding yourself to challenges.
  • Don't allow your energy to get depleted. Take good care of yourself, spiritually and physically.
  • Take some time every day to feel the way you want to feel and to visualize the world or your life the way you want it to be.
  • Make the world better for someone, anyone. Even just refrain from being crabby for a day. :-)

Wishing you light, love, peace and hope, Nancy

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Holiday Air Travel: Energy Healing Can Help

----by Nancy Hausauer

airport scene

Holiday travel, especially air travel, is stressful! It's hard on our physical bodies and also on our energy fields, often leaving them feeling scrambled and chaotic.

Here are some of the reasons why, from an energetic viewpoint.

  • Many of us ground deeply to our home and our bio-region. When we leave it, especially with the tremendous speed of air travel, we can feel adrift, as if we've lost our moorings. Energetically, we have!

  • Then there's the airport itself, with all those anxious, ungrounded, unsettled people. That chaotic energy impacts our own.

  • And the airplane! Packed in with fellow flyers many ranging from nervous to downright panicked, it's hard not to be affected. Between the airport and the airplane, we pick up a lot of stray energy.

  • Once we arrive, we're thrown out of our usual structures and routines, which help support the 1st chakra, so our first chakra is knocked off balance, too.

Energy healing for Travel

Here are some ideas to help keep your energy grounded and stable as you travel:

  • Before leaving, ground all the way to the center of the earth. Upon arrival, reground to center of earth. Repeat every time you change lodgings. Upon return home, reground to the earth's center, then adjust to a different depth if desired.
  • Before arriving at the airport, do the Zip Up and/or the Shield of Light techniques. (Scroll down the linked-to page to find them.) Or just surround yourself with white light.
  • Imagine that you're filling the airplane with white light.
  • Belly breathe—one of the best stress-busters available.
  • When you arrive, take a walk as soon as possible. This helps you ground and also balance your left and right energy.
  • Before leaving, establish a signature essential oil. Take it along and use it environmentally in your lodgings.
  • The Bach Flower Remedy "Rescue Remedy" will help harmonize a frazzled energy field.
  • After arrival, take a shower. Imagine the water clearing your energy field. If you can't shower, imagine that a fountain of light is showering over your energy field and washing away any energy that isn't yours.
  • Create a little altar in your lodgings to help you feel grounded and connected to your spiritual source. Bring a few meaningful items from home or use natural items from your current locale.
  • Create little routines for the duration of your trip to support and soothe your 1st chakra.
I'd love to hear what works for you.

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Photo: User:Mattes -Ownwork. Licensed under Public Domain via WikimediaCommons

Energy Healing For Depression

Introducing A New Series (And Possibly A New Book)

---by Nancy Hausauer

Painting of sad lady

Depression is a huge problem worldwide. U.S. government sources estimate that about 1 in 10 adult Americans take anti-depressant drugs—making it the third most commonly taken prescription medication. The World Health Organization estimates that globally, more than 350 million people are suffering from some form of depression at any given time. And there are multitudes more who suffer from depression but, for whatever reason, don't seek help and so don't show up in the statistics.

Do you find this amazing? I do. It's an epidemic. I have to wonder why, and why the current standard treatments don't help everyone.

I'm not just coming to this subject from a place of abstract concern. Depression is something that I have dealt with off and on for as long as I can remember—since I was a small child. I rarely experience it now, but I have not forgotten the suffering it brings. I've also worked professionally with many people who are grappling with depression, and seen family and friends struggle under its heavy load.

While I am not at all suggesting that people should reject anti-depressant drugs or professional counseling—please do get whatever help you need—I think energy healing and the energy healing perspective also have something valuable to offer people in the grips of depression.

Thus, I am part-way through the first draft of a book on the subject, the working title of which is: "Lifting the Gray: Depression Self-Help from the World of Energy Healing."

After I'm done with the first draft, I'll see if I think it's worthy of finishing and publishing.

I'll be sharing ideas and resources with you as I continue to write the first draft. Here's one, a wonderful TED talk by psychiatrist and author Neel Burton, in which he beautifully reframes the simplistic view of depression that currently prevails.

See the video here if your browser doesn't support the embed.

I'm looking forward to sharing my thinking with you —and getting your feedback. As always, you can comment or share on my Facebook page.

Sincerely, Nancy

Giving Thanks Happily

If you're in the U.S., you'll be celebrating Thanksgiving on Thursday. Whether or not Thursday's an official holiday in your country, counting your blessings is a reliable way to elevate your energy and your life.

Gratitude journal graphic

A sense of gratitude generates positive energy. You can literally see someone's energy change when they shift from negative thoughts to gratitude or appreciation. (Try it!) Thankfulness clears and expands your energy, redirects your consciousness, builds your light body, and strengthens your connection to the rest of Being.

It's a basic tenet of energy healing that "energy flows where attention goes." So when you focus on negatives, you feed that with your energy. When you redirect your attention to what you're grateful for and what's going right, you feed THAT with your energy. Hmmmmmm.....

Ways To Incorporate More Gratitude And Appreciation Into Your Life

  • Observe your thoughts, speech and behavior. How much of these are negative or complaining, how much positive and appreciating?
  • At night before you fall asleep or first thing in the morning (or both), reflect on things you're thankful for (or appreciate).
  • Keep a daily gratitude journal. Alternatively, in the evening write down three good things that happened that day, describing them in some detail.
  • Be sure to notice and appreciate things you may normally take for granted, like clean air and water. (I hope you have these.)
  • Give thanks when things are going well, and more importantly, when they aren't. Even in hard times, there are plenty of things that are going right. You can always appreciate the air coming into and out of your lungs.
  • Regularly voice your appreciation to family and friends, for things both small and large.
  • Pick some aspect of your life you usually find fault with. Switch your perspective and focus on its merits.
  • Practice any or all of these things for 30 days. You'll establish new, more positive habits of mind. Notice how this changes your life.

I wish everyone a warm home, enough to eat, health, peace, safety, the love of family and friends -- and the blessing of a grateful heart. -- Nancy

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